Honesty is the Best Policy

Hello again Friends!

Hope everyone is having a happy Monday! I’d like to discuss “Expertise” today.

Recently, I had an experience that warranted trusting others expertise in an area I was unfamiliar with. I am ashamed to say that I hadn’t given blood in a VERY long time, and since I have a much sought after blood type (O- which is a universal donor), I am asked by the blood center quite often. So, I decided I was overdue, and needed to donate. Since its been so long, I had no idea what to expect or what the ” rules” are.

Unfortunately, I was not given very good instruction, and went about my normal routine the rest of the day/ few days. I ended up getting quite ill and thought something was very wrong with me. I notified a trusted friend in the medical field of my symptoms (btw, Google said it was a heart attack), she told me that I had all the symptoms of very low hemoglobin and should have been taking it easy (ie, no working out for 3-4 days, I was working out 12 hrs later), eating more iron, resting more. I was not in a position to donate that day for a few reasons that the ” experts” didn’t recognize or even ask me about. Thankfully, my friend had the expertise and knowledge to share correct information with me and made me feel so much better (no heart attack) and like I wasn’t going crazy.

So, what I started to think about during this experience was, if you are a trusted expert in your field you owe your patients/clients all the important and relevant information you have on the topic at hand. If, as the “expert”, you don’t have the answers or are not versed in a particular subject, you should be able to admit that you “don’t know”.

I respect someone more when they can admit ignorance, more than just ” winging it”.

If I don’t know about a particular product or service, or can’t give you the platinum to blue to black Ombré, I will tell you the truth. And, you will be better off getting information elsewhere that is correct. I can’t tell you how many barbers told my husband they could do a USMC flat top and failed miserably. He always said, “I’d rather they were honest and sent me elsewhere.”

Moral of the story is be honest, live to your strengths, and admit your weaknesses. You walk away with a lot more respect when you are honest. And, if possible, find a super smart friend whose a nurse so you can avoid googling or Web MD!

Xoxo Jen

You Before Me

Happy Saturday Everyone!

In a world of  “selfies”, status updates and Snapchat, it sometimes seems that people are becoming more and more self-absorbed. Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy to hear from friends and family about their accomplishments, but sometimes it’s just TOO MUCH.

Lately, I’ve been trying to be more conscious of the things I share versus the things I keep to myself. As a stylist, I learned a lesson early on about listening more than I speak. Now, I may not always adhere to that, but I do try most days. If I don’t stop to listen, I could miss hearing crucial information about my guest’s needs and desires for her style. In “everyday” life, I want to give the people around me the respect and attention they deserve. And looking down at my phone or snapping a selfie while someone is talking to me is far from respectful. I encourage parents to instill this lesson in their children since it is the next generation that I truly see being lost in the land of “me me me”.

I care about my friends lives, I want to know about their ups and downs, and see the pictures from their trips.  But I don’t need to know every detail of their lunch or how many squats they did today.  And I can definitely go one more day without a duck lips selfie.

So, I’d like to give everyone a challenge for this week. Put down your phone when talking to a loved one, give your full attention to your spouse and children, and say “you” more than “I”.

Have a great week of selflessness

XOXO Jen